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How I ended my “Period Poverty”…One Roll At a Time.

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What do you think about when you hear the term “Period Poverty”? For me there’s a certain level of shame that I’ve clung on to each time the topic’s come up. I mean after all, you can’t afford to buy pads???

At the age of 17, I was thrust into the world of adulting with things like rent to consider. I was fortunate to obtain a job fresh out of school but had so much to learn about budgeting, parenting myself and a whole host of other things. The luxuries that I was used to at home now seemed like a foreign concept. How was I going to afford personal toiletries, groceries , rent, and other expenses, all while on an entry level salary.

Every payday I rock- paper- scissored which commitment I would honour. This was a monthly dilemma. And to adapt to this change in lifestyle I had to get creative. That meant recycling food, reducing my wants and buying only necessities, repurposing items etc. I was honestly okay with doing these things. I had friends who were struggling the same way and we exchanged horror stories and shared small victories along the way.

But the thing that we never spoke about was the very thing that made me feel the most embarrassed. Pads were expensive and my flow was a bit on the heavy side. So I always tripled up on padding (yes it’s a thing).

I decided that I would buy at least one pack of pads a month. I considered pads a luxury and would only use it on days I was in office. Toilet paper on the other hand would be used when I was at home (as it was already something that I had to purchase) and it could help “stretch the pads” . (I said what I said)

Soon, the cost of living would go up, and further cuts had to be made to my personal spending. I desperately became dependent on the toiletries supplied at work. I would go to the restroom and gather as much of the paper as possible and save for later when I was at home. And on weekends I would use old t-shirts on rotation for coverage. This went on for some time.

Now, I know what you’re thinking. How could I stoop so low and take toilet paper from work? Why didn’t I just reach out to someone? Why didn’t I ask for help?

But, before you judge me, answer this, who was I going to call? There were no agencies , no organisations that I knew of at the time that supplied free pads. Funny enough though, I could collect all the samples of condoms in the world for free. But pads – the thing I needed for something that I had no control over, something that made me a woman- was not prioritized. Nor, were there safe spaces that I could go and share my struggles on this issue.

Fast forward to the present day – it’s 2021 and local groups such as Helping Her Foundation (@helpinghertt) and Feminitt Caribbean (@feminitt) are demystifying the misconceptions surrounding periods and safe cycles. The #EndPeriodPoverty campaign all over the world and even at home is being championed to assist women and girls in having free access to sanitary napkins.

But its more than just a hashtag. There is much work to be done physically and the emotional support required is just as great. Back then I wished someone had told me that there was nothing to be ashamed of.

I’ve come to the realisation that there are many who have faced similar difficulties. If you’ve never had this issue to deal with then consider yourself blessed so that you can lend assistance to those women/girls in need. But if you are struggling, know that you are not alone. Help is just a phone call or DM away.

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‘Sis’ is Tired! I am Sis. Who are You? It’s Time to Fix That.

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Sometimes in this beautiful process of healing and growth, we may think that we’ve overcome a particular challenge, learnt all the lessons and are ready for the next level. Then, life may come along and test us to see if we’ve truly evolved, or if more work is needed.  

Honestly, in that moment we may feel so defeated, but please know that that’s only a feeling.           For some time now, I’ve been doing the work on myself, spending that quality time with myself, doing therapy, speaking kindly to myself, looking in the mirror and liking what I see , ending situations with people and things that no longer serve me, pushing toward my goals and all of that, so I figured that I was well on my way to “perfecting” this self-love thing. Right?

Truth is, self love isn’t a course that you complete and graduate from. It’s a living breathing thing. It’s an everyday thing. It isn’t always pretty. It requires work and forgiveness and holding yourself accountable for shortcomings and errors; But also giving yourself grace and second chances to do better. 

Loving yourself also means taking care of you. Not just the external ‘you’ that dresses up and goes out, but the ‘you’ that juggles emotions, decisions and has to focus on so many things at the same time. The ‘you’ that has to deal with loss, death and disappointment.  The ‘you’ that needs rest, that requires peace of mind and simply an ease up at times.

I thought I was “handling” all these things well. But the truth is I’ve been frustrated, tired and drained. Not only by the uncertainty of the times we’re in due to the pandemic, but also by the overwhelming pressure from social media, the continuous loss of loved ones and so much more. I’ve been feeling like I’m not hitting the targets I set out to accomplish daily, but then it hit me! I realized that it wasn’t because I was demotivated or because I was procrastinating – It was simply because, ‘sis is tired!’

It’s crazy to think that all this time I’ve been running on an empty tank , falsely believing that I didn’t need to take a break, telling everyone else that they should, but not giving myself permission to pause. So from next week I am hitting the snooze button on life for a bit and scheduling much needed time to spend with loved ones, but also ample amounts of rest and self care.

First up on the list is a spa day. And what better way to ‘spa on a budget’ than with Cheveu Beauty Secret. They have these compact gift boxes with just the right products to take care of yourself from head to toe-hair products, facial masks, a wonderful detox mask for your feet and much more. I’m so looking forward to pampering myself with this package from the comfort of my home. I deserve this ‘me time’ and so do you.

Have a safe and enjoyable Christmas and remember to take time to rest because there is only one you!

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Did Your Mom Give You The ‘Outside Clothes’ Talk Too?

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If you were raised in a household like mine, with a mother who had slight OCD tendencies, then you would be familiar with the phrase, “don’t sit on the bed with your outside clothes!”

In fact, anytime you’d visit someone’s home, much to their confusion, you’d raise the sheet/chair covering before sitting or sit on the edge of the seat or mattress. Am I right? No? Just me? Okay…

Needless to say, I’m familiar with having to sanitise my hands, change my clothes after returning from ‘outside,’ but, it’s never been mandatory up until now.

When the pandemic first surfaced , we were told of all the ways we could protect ourselves from being infected. I just had not considered how this change would impact our lifestyle. Gone are the days of coming home and being greeted at the front door with hugs and conversations with loved ones, or going straight to the kitchen after a long day of work to get a head start on preparing dinner. No. The welcome home greeting mat has now been replaced with a sanitization station. And there are Covid protocols governing how we operate on the “inside” of our homes. 

At the very notice of a sniffle or the faintest cough, an onslaught of questions arise and the rest of the household slightly distances itself, as a precautionary measure. This feeling of helplessness, which stems from the fear of getting the virus, is daunting to say the least. 

Not being able to embrace, touch or move as we’ve been used to, is strange, and I’m not sure how long this ‘coldness’ may have to last, but one thing I do know is that we cannot allow ourselves to become emotionally disconnected, as much as this time calls for social distancing. For this particular reason, I’m super grateful for the team at Zee’s Cleaning Supplies. To be honest, they’ve made this process a lot easier to handle. Among their wide range of household cleaning products, the team offers the ultimate Sanitization combo. This package has everything you need to sanitize your living/work space on a daily basis at an affordable price. Plus, you can order online and have it delivered straight to you.

With this level of convenience, I get back time, which I can spend at home with loved ones while ensuring that we continue to maintain the cleanliness needed to combat this virus. 

Check out their offers so you can continue to check in with your loved ones.

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